As Mother’s Day approaches, there is a quiet grief spreading across our lands — one that does not make headlines, but is deeply felt in homes, in empty chairs, and in unanswered messages.
It is the grief of mothers and grandmothers who have been cut off.
Not because of abuse.
Not because of neglect.
But because of disagreement.
In our time, many have adopted a new way of handling differences. It is swift. It is absolute. And it is often applauded. A person becomes, in their own mind, judge, jury, and executioner—declaring a parent unworthy of relationship over politics, beliefs, or cultural positions.
This is not wisdom.
This is not maturity.
And it is certainly not love.
Remember the Cost of Your Life
Before you were formed in opinion, you were formed in a womb.
We are “fearfully and wonderfully made.” But that making came through a mother—through months of discomfort, risk, and sacrifice.
She carried you when it was inconvenient.
She gave to you when you could give nothing in return.
She endured sleepless nights, worry, and often unseen labor.
No mother is perfect.
But every mother has paid a price.
To now cast her aside because she does not align with your current thinking is not progress—it is both forgetful and ungrateful.
A Culture That Teaches You to Cut Off
We are living in an age shaped by voices that reward outrage and separation. Platforms and conversations often train us to distance ourselves quickly from those who do not agree with us.
But what happens online should not govern what happens in your family.
Family is not a comment thread.
Your mother is not an opponent.
And love is not proven by how quickly you sever ties.
Honor Your Mother Still Matters
Honor does not mean agreement on every issue.
Honor does not require silence about convictions.
But honor does require humility, gratitude, and relationship.
To withdraw affection, to refuse communication, to harden your heart—this is not right.
The Hidden Wound
There are mothers this year who will not receive a phone call.
Grandmothers who will not see their grandchildren.
Women who quietly carry heartbreak, wondering how a child they loved so deeply could turn away so completely.
You may feel justified.
You may feel certain you are right.
But being right is not the highest good.
Love is.
A Call to Return
If you have distanced yourself from your mother over differences—pause.
Consider what you may be losing.
Consider what she has already given.
Consider whether the voices shaping your decision truly care for you—or simply use your loyalty for their cause.
Then take a simple step:
Make the call.
Send the message.
Reopen the door.
You do not need to resolve every disagreement.
You do not need to surrender your convictions.
But you can choose love.
Before It Is Too Late
Time moves quickly.
There will come a day when the opportunity to reconcile is gone. Many would give anything for one more conversation, one more embrace, one more chance to say, “Thank you… I love you.”
Do not let that day arrive with regret.
This Mother’s Day
Let this be a turning point.
Lay down the spirit of cancellation.
Take up the call to honor.
And remember: the woman you are tempted to dismiss is the one through whom God gave you life.
